It does not happen very often, but I occasionally take a mid-day walk at UNC Asheville’s track. While I am walking, I often listen to the radio. On this particular day, it was talk radio. A national talk radio host was speaking with a caller about the current well-being of our country. During the conversation, the subject of race relations surfaced. The host stated that the problem for people of color today is that they are incapable of “moving on.” He went on to say that they refuse to allow the necessary “psychological healing” to occur. For those that “have gotten over it,” he observed, they are realizing phenomenal success in our country.
My first reaction was to recognize that he was another in a long, long line of clueless white men.
I have come to understand that I have been in that line for a long time. The difference is that I now know it and the radio host does not.
From his remarks, it seems clear that he believes that at some historical moment a light switch was flipped and racism miraculously ceased to exist. That people of color no longer face problems arising from the color of their skin. If only it were true.
I’ve learned, though, that white men come by their obliviousness honestly. We don’t bump into incidences of prejudice and discrimination on a regular basis. It is easier to be clueless when racism is below the surface and less overt. Given the significant progress that has been made, it’s also easier to remain clueless and assume that racial injustice has finally disappeared. The sad truth is that there is more work to be done. And, as Patti Digh’s article, White Privilege, suggests, most of the heavy lifting must be done by white people.
My next thoughts about the radio host’s remarks centered on the terms “projection” and “labeling” which is something Peter Block has written about. It is a situation where we believe the “other” is the problem and that transformation is required of them and not us before we can see improvement. We think this way because it offers us a payoff. It lets us off the hook. This payoff begins the moment we believe that problems reside in others and that they are the ones who need to change. The essence of projection and labeling is that it places accountability for an alternative future on others. This is the payoff of stereotyping, prejudice, and a bunch of “isms” that we are all familiar with. This talk show host was certainly enjoying this payoff.
My final thoughts then focused on community leaders of color. I think most of these citizens would agree that progress has been made. Given where we started, how could it be otherwise? But in light of the current culture and context, should they lead differently in order for things to get profoundly better? A leader that quickly came to mind is Nelson Mandela.
Nelson Mandela personifies struggle. He is still leading the fight against apartheid with extraordinary vigor and resilience after spending nearly three decades of his life behind bars.
He has sacrificed his private life and his youth for his people, and remains South Africa’s best known and loved hero. Nelson Mandela has never wavered in his devotion to democracy, equality and learning. Despite terrible provocation, he has never answered racism with racism. His life has been an inspiration, in South Africa and throughout the world, to all who are oppressed and deprived, to all those who are opposed to oppression and deprivation.
After spending twenty-seven years in prison, he immediately spoke of restoration and reconciliation. I don’t know how he did it. My guess is retribution would have been on most of our minds, but Mandela was more interested in healing wounds. In community terms, it was about repairing the fragmentation and lack of civility that existed. Until this healing occurred, he knew nothing new could emerge.
He could certainly be a role model for leaders today–leaders in a multicultural world. As in the past, this leadership needs to fight for the elimination of racism, but do tactics need to change? Are less combative approaches called for? Obviously, it depends on the situation, but how quickly do we choose to be offended? How divisive are our leadership behaviors? Is current leadership promoting the healing process that will prove beneficial for future generations? To achieve another tipping point in the fight against racism, should these leaders act as though “the glass is half-filled” while separately addressing the experiences that reaffirm that the “the glass is half-empty?” It certainly seems like the advice Mandela would provide.
Finally, some of my recent work has focused on community indicators so it was natural to think about indicators of inclusive leadership. How will we know when we’ve reached the next level of success? For me, one indicator will certainly be when a certain radio talk show host acknowledges that a problem still exists and that he shares responsibility for the fact that the light switch has yet to be completely turned on.
Having completed my walk, I felt more stressed than relaxed.
I was certainly a bit angry at the radio host for reminding me how clueless we still are, but thankful to him for having triggered a useful period of personal reflection. It’s amazing what one notices just by walking around.
Walking in circles on a track was certainly apropos. People who have been lost in a fog or in a snowstorm often walk for hours imagining that they are headed in a straight path. After a while, they arrive right back where they started. Hopefully, more white men will join together in walking to a new destination–a place we help create. A place characterized by the true eradication of discrimination and racism.